Communicating with Your Children
About Parental Injury
Telling children about a parent’s injury may be difficult, but it is the first step
toward helping them understand and cope. It’s best to tell your child as soon as
possible. Children, no matter how young, sense when something is wrong and will
become frightened if they don’t know what has happened. How you talk with your
child about a parent’s injury will depend on the child’s age and ability to understand
the injury, your own emotional state, and the emotional and mental state of the injured
Here are some tips for finding the right time to talk with your child:
- Talk with your child as soon as possible after the injury has occurred. It’s natural
to want to protect children by withholding bad news, but children can sense from
adult behavior when something bad has happened and will become anxious
without knowing why.
- Explain what happened when you feel you can be calm and there will be no disruptions. Children take cues from a parent’s behavior. Whatever the child’s age,
sit down and talk at eye level. If you talk calmly about the injury, your child will be
better able to understand what has happened and what has changed.
- Use language your child can understand and don’t provide details to a child who
isn’t ready to hear them.
- Protect your child from hospital trauma. It is important to prepare your child
before visiting the hospital. Check the hospital’s website as it may have information
or resources on preparing your child and avoiding exposure that can unduly
- Reassure your child that the injured parent is receiving the best of care, and
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